I used to think that change wasn’t possible—that what you saw was what you got. I felt like I was already set, finished. But fortunately, that’s not the case. We can change, sometimes in pretty big ways. This ability to “rewire” our brains is called neuroplasticity. It turns out, our minds are much more like plastic than we think—they can be reshaped. What a hopeful thought! It means we really can become better versions of ourselves, and our well-being can improve. Research shows that about 40% of our well-being comes from our intentions and actions. That’s a lot of potential for positive change!
But here’s the kicker: change doesn’t happen on its own. It requires awareness and intentional effort. If you’re trying to build a new habit, it takes an average of 66 days of consistent practice before it becomes second nature. So, start small—take manageable steps and be patient with yourself.
Let’s say you want to become more thoughtful. To get there, create daily opportunities where you can practice. Look for moments when you can act thoughtfully—whether that’s listening more deeply or doing something kind. Frame your day with a “thoughtful” lens, noticing how others express thoughtfulness too. Bring it into your conversations. Share your goal with those close to you and ask them to acknowledge when you’ve done something thoughtful. Keep track of your progress by journaling your small wins—celebrating even the smallest moments of success. It’s a great way to boost your positive emotions and keep yourself motivated.
Of course, there will be days when it feels like nothing’s changing. That’s normal. Change takes time. Over those 66 days and beyond, your brain will begin to reprogram itself. Little by little, what once felt awkward will start to feel more natural.
Neuroplasticity is proof that we can change for the better. It might be gradual, sometimes clumsy, but the rewards are worth it. So, go for it. Embrace the process of growth. You’ve got this!