There is too much disagreement, anger and division. Whether it’s the economy, Donald Trump or climate change, views have become increasingly polarized and uncompromising. I’m right and you’re wrong; I’m wise, you’re foolish — and I can prove it. See, this is what I just read!
Psychologists and economists note that people have a strong natural inclination to seek information that confirms their beliefs and to dismiss anything that challenges them. This is known as confirmation bias — the tendency to search for, interpret, favor and recall information that supports one’s existing opinions, while overlooking or trivializing whatever contradicts them.
We feel confident we’re right, and the evidence seems to back us up. The only problem is that someone else, holding the opposite view, can find plenty of evidence to support their conclusion too.
This isn’t about fake news, propaganda or lies. Rather, it’s that there may be dozens of facts or half-truths surrounding any issue, and each side’s media selects the ones that best fit their narrative and their audience’s beliefs. No one wins. The debate becomes more heated. Each side grows more entrenched and less willing to listen. Divisions deepen, and genuine dialogue or compromise becomes rare — even unwelcome. The only “solution” seems to be for the other side to admit defeat and repent.
It sounds rather hopeless, but isn’t this an honest reflection of how most complex debates unfold? So, is there a solution? Yes!
Start by listening respectfully to opinions that differ from your own and acknowledge when others make valid points. Read media from alternative perspectives to understand where different views come from. Accept that your own stance may have flaws. The hallmark of a healthy democracy is tolerance, so practice it when differences arise. And remember, strongly disagreeing with someone doesn’t make them a bad person. Labelling others as evil, ignorant or the enemy because you disagree helps no one.
By definition, complex issues rarely have 100% “correct” or “ideal” solutions. They are complex because the trade-offs are rarely black and white, but shades of grey. The ultimate answer often lies within a narrow range — perhaps 50% ±10%. In reality, we usually agree on most aspects; we simply differ on where to draw the final balance.
Let our differences be guided by tolerance, patience, civility, open-mindedness and compassion. And above all, let’s each try to lighten up on our confirmation bias.